Comments on: What’s harder? http://madeinrichmond.net/whats-harder/ One doesn't *become* a Southern lady. You either are, or you're not. No amount of acclimation will make up for a lack of upbringing based on bare feet, good manners, and the mastery of puddling rather than sweating. Wed, 23 May 2012 00:34:52 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.5 By: fouroboros http://madeinrichmond.net/whats-harder/#comment-25652 fouroboros Fri, 09 Jan 2009 00:33:11 +0000 http://madeinrichmond.net/?p=1697#comment-25652 Now, you see, there I was thinking that "delusion" was the *key* to marriage, in the sense that saying the appropriate thing rather than the factual thing is often the best course. Exhibit A would be the hackneyed "Do you think these sequined Jordache jeans from high school still look good on me?" or "Honey, am I still the mix of Atticus Finch and MacGyver (burp) that you fell in love with?" Seems to me that's a great way to keep your marriage from hours of screaming. But I'm a blogger, what do I know? Now, you see, there I was thinking that “delusion” was the *key* to marriage, in the sense that saying the appropriate thing rather than the factual thing is often the best course. Exhibit A would be the hackneyed “Do you think these sequined Jordache jeans from high school still look good on me?” or “Honey, am I still the mix of Atticus Finch and MacGyver (burp) that you fell in love with?”

Seems to me that’s a great way to keep your marriage from hours of screaming. But I’m a blogger, what do I know?

]]> By: Rebecca Jorgensen, PhD http://madeinrichmond.net/whats-harder/#comment-25649 Rebecca Jorgensen, PhD Thu, 08 Jan 2009 22:31:11 +0000 http://madeinrichmond.net/?p=1697#comment-25649 Love is instinctual on every level - it's wired in to us to care for those we love, to be close to them when they're in need, to be long for them if they are distant. We wired for emotional closeness and presence. We don't grow out of it, even though society tells us we should, but we never do. We always need someone(s) that we can rely on and who can rely on us. Attachment is from the cradle to the grave. We're just stronger together. The difference from loving as an adult and being a parent is the caring for and being taken care of is recipocal in adult loving. Good for you and your marriage you're in touch with needing to be close! Love is instinctual on every level – it’s wired in to us to care for those we love, to be close to them when they’re in need, to be long for them if they are distant. We wired for emotional closeness and presence. We don’t grow out of it, even though society tells us we should, but we never do. We always need someone(s) that we can rely on and who can rely on us. Attachment is from the cradle to the grave. We’re just stronger together. The difference from loving as an adult and being a parent is the caring for and being taken care of is recipocal in adult loving.

Good for you and your marriage you’re in touch with needing to be close!

]]> By: Matt http://madeinrichmond.net/whats-harder/#comment-25636 Matt Thu, 08 Jan 2009 02:43:32 +0000 http://madeinrichmond.net/?p=1697#comment-25636 Not to be crude but I'm pretty sure a diaper change and some chest action would pretty well fix anything in my marriage. Not to be crude but I’m pretty sure a diaper change and some chest action would pretty well fix anything in my marriage.

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